Random stuff, reflections on the meaning of life and death, humour, self-deprecation, a bit of bad poetry.

A fellow introvert and I have been reflecting on the consequences of our introversion of late. We ponder, have our rigorous efforts to maintain our solitude so that we can read our books undisturbed and avoid small talk at all costs prevented us from having a valid social network? Are we destined in retirement to become crazy cat ladies (in my case, crazy bird lady, with a nest for hair), leaving the house only when we run out of reading material? To some, our way of life may appear as the complete absence of lifestyle, as in, why don’t we get a life. Others, thinking we must be deeply unhappy and/or terribly lonely in our isolation, feel pity and consider it their life’s mission to fill in all the empty hours of our day with things to do and people to see, or, at the very least, make suggestions on how we can lead a more fulfilling life.

My extroverted husband interrupted the above thought process to play me a song he wrote. He has since recorded it and put it out there on social media.

I just checked and he has 1500 facebook friends. 354 of those are mutual friends, most of whom I have met through him.

I’m thinking, maybe I don’t need to try harder to socialize after all.

I’m fine. Really, I am.


Life with an extrovert. Really.

13 thoughts on “I’m Not Lonely, I’m an Introvert.

  1. Live & Learn says:

    Yes, yes you are fine. Very fine.

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    1. bogeyandruby says:

      That almost sounds like it takes one to know one … 😂


      1. Live & Learn says:

        This post spoke to me…. 🙂

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      2. bogeyandruby says:

        I’m so glad, David. 🙂


  2. Kiki says:

    oh how I love your extrovert, playing his sign-guitar with his ‘happy retirement’ micro! and our couple is just the other side of this coin where HH is the introvert and me the extrovert. Although I still MUST have the time (now – in retirement) to read a book per week….
    And yes, HH and I still sing, make music, discuss, walk (and when HE feels like, talk) together. And both have learned to accept the other in their own skin, with their convictions, and their different gene pool. We have the same faith and share the same values, we live and let live; I’ve learned to be a bit more restrained while he has opened up a lot more and be more (much more) generous.
    (and again) yes, I’ve been asked more often than I cared for, if I had or would consider my own blog and the answer always is: Thanks for asking, but no thanks. No, because I couldn’t put in the hours for my posts, as it is my view that any comment merits a reply (or lets say, if there are several, one post per day). If I can’t do that, I won’t do it. AND I chose to choose who I want to follow, and also, I only make comments to posts I feel are worthy my grain of wisdom/fun/own experience/or even advice.

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    1. bogeyandruby says:

      Interesting how we live in opposite scenarios that seem to work on both sides of the Atlantic. Oh, and luckily for us, you are saving your writing skills and your time in order to comment on our blog posts! For what is a blog without its readers! 🥰

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    2. Bonnie says:

      Thank you Kiki…Happy New Year.

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  3. Kiki says:

    sorry, nervous finger pressing ‘send’….. no, you don’t need to try harder. You sound totally fine to me as you are!


  4. Bonnie Davis says:

    In my home….I live with an introvert. He is happy to let me shine in our few mixed social settings. He will sit back and just smile as I play the fool. I have however learned to understand that I also need my own version of solitude, sometimes that means I just don’t want to talk to him, or anyone else…it makes him a bit nervous when I get that way though, because it doesn’t happen very often. In any case introverted or extroverted….acceptance is what we all need to practice…for both ourselves and others. ❤️

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    1. bogeyandruby says:

      Very well put, Bonnie. Especially if as a couple you tend to be opposites. Unfortunately, socializing absolutely drains me to the point of exhaustion. I think that is why I avoid it so much or at least try to space it out. I need a long time to recharge in between.

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      1. Kiki says:

        Then you shouldn’t maybe be with a guitar player….?! Just kidding… I’m sure you were chosen just because you were not a fan-girl. Or were you?
        If anybody would have dreamt of suggesting that HH and I would ever become a couple, I would have touched their forehead to see if they had a high fever. And yet; we have become quite ‘the pair’. The most important bit is maybe to give each other the space and time (-out) needed for recharge of own batteries.

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      2. bogeyandruby says:

        Is it true that opposites attract? Are we perfect examples of that? The great thing about Ian, is that he never pushes me to be like him and is quite happy being an extrovert while i remain at home reading my book. How marvellous that you and HH have made it work for so long!

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    2. Kiki says:

      Bonnie, so well expressed. You and us are so alike. Yes, we all need our own private space and time slots. Love your words.

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