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Yesterday was the 10 year anniversary of one of the happiest days of my life.

I think my husband was a tad disappointed that I didn’t blog about it so I will try to make up for it today.

What was so great about it?

Some girls are seduced by flowers; all it took for me was someone offering to change my guitar strings, then actually showing up to do it.

Afterwards, we sat on opposite ends of my sofa, face to face, feet up, listening to Bruce Cockburn’s instrumental album: Speechless. No words necessary.

Even after that perfect day, it took a long courtship, the natural evolution of a deepening friendship, for me to understand the source of that bliss.

That the feeling—in your heart, bones, and head—that you are truly seen, from opposite ends of the sofa, is all you need to know about love.

Ian changing my guitar strings on January 3rd, 2013. He has since changed them regularly.

10 thoughts on “My Happiest Day

  1. Kiki says:

    NOW I’m even more baffled….. I made another comment on my smartphone and again, it proceeded (as it should) – only to NOT appear on your blog. Heck! So, no more comments on my phone for you. And btw, your blog is the only one to give me that headache. But then, I’ve given up battling with the WP ‘disorders’…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. bogeyandruby says:

      I take full responsibility even though I don’t know how to remedy it! 😂 I sometimes have trouble commenting on blogs if I am not going through my WP site. Please don’t give up; I enjoy your comments when they get around to appearing! 😘

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  2. Kiki says:

    comment to post, as it was – more or less:
    Oh how sweet. Both of you. Our relationship started with music too. Both in a national choir, singing. We both play music, sing and we have the same faith.
    Congratulations to both of you. Keep going – it’s well worth it.
    We’ll celebrate our 25th in March. When we got married (it was my 2nd marriage), I gave it a few years. We are SO different…. and there’s the proof in the pudding: How wrong can one be? Me! But I also have to admit, that if we weren’t married, it wouldn’t have lasted. So, it’s really worth ‘fighting’ for your relationship. Because it IS worth it.
    To the next 10 years – think of two flying hearts here, I can’t do emojis on the computer!

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    1. bogeyandruby says:

      Aren’t second chances grand? We are very different as well, an extrovert (him) stuck with a stick in the mud introvert (me). How marvellous that yours has lasted 25 years. Music can be an important common denominator. Like speaking another language that you both understand. Do you still sing and play? Thanks for sharing your story. Seems to me that you should have your own blog! Maybe you do? 😊


  3. Jane says:

    To be truly seen and to have someone who has your back (and guitar strings). Happy anniversary to the both of you. Take a moment and enjoy the fact you had the energy and love to write this blog post after your grief post. There ARE moments of light. Note them, however fleeting. They will burn longer and brighter through your weariness and sadness one day. ❤️

    Liked by 1 person

    1. bogeyandruby says:

      Thank you, my friend. I am trying to exercise my writing skills at the same time as I rest my body and retina. They are very rusty and even short ditties like this take a lot out me. Will attempt to post more often for the month of January. I appreciate your kind words and your loyal readership/friendship. You are correct, love and grief are forever intertwined. Hugs xo


  4. Abby Kleinberg-Bassel says:

    I’m so glad I got to see your love begin and grow. I’m so happy for you both.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. bogeyandruby says:

      I am glad you were there too particularly as I met you and Mark through Ian. Hugs to you both xo


    1. bogeyandruby says:

      Thanks, David! 🙂


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